Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20s Matters

In this fast phasing life a lot of things could happen in a blink of an eye. One day you're young and have all the time, tomorrow you've aged and running out of time. A lot of things could happen without you noticing it. So the question is, are 
you ready to share your youthful years with someone in a serious matter?

Here are some reasons why it is a good idea to develop a serious relationship in your 20's

1. Strength - you are both still young and has vigor to do things out together. You two can go mountain climbing, biking, visit different places, and do extreme adventure/things together. That youthful strength that you have in your 20's would be a good foundation of your memories together. And just to remind you, that energy that you have right now in your 20's would be different in your succeeding years. So it would be nice to spend that energetic years of yours with the person you want to grow old with. Right?

2. Time - by this time maybe your are still studying in your college, or perhaps enjoying yourself in your first job. Either way, your schedule is not yet so tied-up. You still have more time to discover new things to your soon to be partner in life. Unlike others who are already in their late 20's who are usually in a pressure to find "the one". They don't have ample time to know more about that person because some of them hears the ticking of the clock (the pressure).

3. Stable - when you think that you've already found the one, you can now focus more on the bigger concern of your life which is your future. If you already have a stable or what they call the "steady" relationship, it'll be easier for you to excel in your work. Knowing that there is someone who's excited for you to achieve your goals in life (aside from your family) would be great! 

4. Set for a married life - if you've been together since your early 20's.. settling down for good or entering into a married life in your late 20's wouldn't be an issue for the two of you. Perhaps by that time you've been in a relationship for 3-7 years already, and getting married in your late 20's or early 30's would be the best time. It wouldn't scare you because you had enough time to discover each others' strengths and weaknesses, what's good and bad with each other. You are already prepared financially, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. 

Look, I am not saying to settle down in your early 20's.. what I am trying convey here are the points in finding a serious relationship in your early 20's. I know we all have different views regarding this matter, but let me share my thought towards this topic.

I've read an article few days ago.. don't get me wrong, it was nice and I love some of his points regarding life and relationship. There is just one thing that I would like to expound. He said, "DO NOT settle on your 20's" and "explore". Yes, me to.. I don't like to settle and to have a family on my own in my early 20's. I am not ready for that neither. But when he said "explore".. I just don't agree with that idea to be honest. 

I am a kind of a person who doesn't want to waste my time with unnecessary things -- and people, to be precise. I don't want to explore by trying each man that i'll meet along the way. I am a person who enjoys sticking with one person whom I believed in. I always try to make a relationship work, I stick 'till the very end. But when I say it's over.. it's over.

I would rather take the term "explore" as a verb, in which... The two of us will explore new things, food, places, and experiences together. I think that sounds better than the idea of exploring with different people you meet, not knowing that you've let that right person go. As some people says, "You've lost the Moon while counting the Stars".

Remember that not all people can find a serious relationship, that is why you're blessed if you've already found that person who's serious being with you. It's your part now to take good care of him/her if you would really want that serious relationship to work. You found him/her early, you still have a long way to go.. together. :)

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It'll be different tomorrow...

Thinking about yesterday, the life that I had lived in for the past years of my life.. All the heartaches, disappointment, pain, struggles, fuss, and crap in my life. Everything! And now... here I am again, in front of my blog site... a blog site in where I  can be who I am. I can be quiet and just look straight on this blank space, a space in which I know that I am not really supposed to say or write about anything at all. No one is asking me to move my fingers across the keyboard... no one-- and yet, here I am. Speaking my heart out. 

Heart... Yeah, just a body part.. indeed. But hearing myself speaking out about this part, I vividly recall a lot of things. Umm, specifically.. about a tragic heartache. Yeah, it's a tragic one I say. 

Well.. I can still remember myself seeing this same blank space a year ago.. Same format, same same... Yeah, and now as I write... it seems like I can mirror myself. I can still see her sitting in front of her computer trying to collect herself, trying to speak her heart out by putting up the words together on this deadpan. Trying to blog the pain away. Haha.. yeah, I can still recall that term "blogging the pain away" of which she was usually doing. I still feel sorry for her.. Every time I look back and be on that same timeline with my old self, I can't help but to feel disappointed. But yeah? What else can I do? Past is past, it will still remain as a part of my history. 

Then... (woohoo! here comes the THEN part) yeah! 

Then.... I finally woke up and collected the broken pieces of me. Broken.. yeah.. I was really broken back then. Funny when I usually say before that I wasn't really broken. That I was just hurt and all.. But come on! It's time to finally admit to myself that yeah I was broken way back then... Real broke! 

I stood up, head's up. I started walking again and living again! How did it happen? My God... He picked me up. He'd helped me out. He gave me peace.. 

From that moment, I realized that everything has really an end. Specially that whatever heartache that you're feeling right now. Everyday is a new day, why halt on that pain? Okay, you got hurt? That's totally normal! You're still alive, pain and pleasure -- that's life! Good or bad, look up and give thanks! :) 

God bless you~~

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Save Me by Liz Appel

Me #2

Katie Matthews needs a knight in shining armor. Immediately. Three weeks shy of graduating from college, her life is on a crash course with disaster.

Her parents suddenly announce they're moving across country. Bye-bye free place to live.

Her long-time boyfriend decides he's really not all that committed. Bye-bye relationship.

Homeless, boyfriend-less and very nearly broke, Katie searches for someone to save her from the monumental mess her life has become. Her best friend Dani, who offers her a place to stay but who just might live with the biggest slob on the planet. Her parents, who are so busy reinventing their own lives that they can't be bothered with hers. Even her ex-boyfriend, Ben, whose mixed signals are making her head spin.

In desperation, she answers an ad for a roommate and discovers the perfect place to live—and some gorgeous roommates, too. Things might work out for Katie, after all. But when another unanticipated complication arises, her new living situation is threatened.

As she baby-steps her way out of a never-ending string of disasters, wondering if that knight in shining armor is ever going to show up, she realizes that she might not need one, after all. Katie Matthews just might be able to save herself.

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Hello readers, 
It's been a long time since I had a book review and honestly speaking, I missed it! That is why I'm back. :) I've already continued reading the Me Series which were written by Liz Appel. If you have read my previous review about the Me #1.. I told you guys that I will definitely read another book from her, so I did. 

I'm done reading Me#2 - Save Me.  The story is good enough for us to relate --during rough road in our lives. We may have different kinds of difficulties and challenges though. Still I can relate to Katie, since sometimes we may feel like we are all alone.. yeah alone.. alone and broke. We are emotionally and financially unstable. It's hard. Nonetheless, I know that there is a lesson behind every challenges in our lives. That is what happened to Katie. During her down times, she realized that her boyfriend Ben wasn't good enough for her. She felt how her best friend Dani loves her. She even found new friends... and new lover. 

Sometimes I am thinking how silly this road is. When you are happy, you are happy. But when you are sad.... you are so sad. When something bad happened, another bad thing will follow. It seems like a domino... a trial strikes you and before you can even stand again, another block will bump you so you will fall again. So ironic right? 

Life is really hard at times however you are not expected to win in every obstacles that life throws you. It's the lessons that you've learned along the way. Those lessons that would mold you to be a better you. So don't give up! So what if you are in pain right now? So what if you are so down? So what if nobody believes you? So what if you are broke? So what if you fall? It's about standing up. It's about moving forward with a smile on your face saying that you've learned, you learned and you are carrying those lessons with you as your strongest weapon in this life marathon. 

Come on, life is the most wonderful and priceless gift we had ever received. And it would be more precious if we would offer our lives to our Most High Creator.. We are living  not for our selves alone, we are living for each and everyone. We are created to love and to take good care of each other. We are such a wonderful creatures. We were already saved long time ago by Jesus. All we have to do is to have our faith on him. 

What a wonderful life, so please be strong. God bless you~~

 xxMIDAxx

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